thnx everyone, i did make block sizes small in beginning (50-250), but now that i'm 800 from traderlounge I should send to btrx, and send them back in bigger blocks.....i guess. later ones were sent 250, to 500, but the old ones have been there since day one, and that was over half of them.
250 is an okay block size but 50 is on the small side.
Orphans are always going to happen as this coin has a crazy network weight.