I do agree with you (if I understand you correctly) that speculation is currently driving the bitcoin economy, and she is a bad driver. However if bitcoin requires us to use it in a certain way and requires our pampering, then it is not going to work.
What I have seen in the past two years is an endless stream haters and attackers. Despite their efforts bitcoin is stronger now than ever, and still growing stronger.
Speculation has its good powers, but only if the central banks take advantage of that. You can really leverage an investment with bitcoins, as long as the wealthy miners(central banks) are issuing bitcoin at a steady rate, and bitcoin based projects begin to pop up, You give me the coins, i sell what I need to the speculators for fiat expenses, as my farm becomes productive, so does the intrinsic value of bitcoin.
I am not a hater. I think bitcoin if beautiful, but there must be some very open, honest, intelligent conversations regarding the deployment and creation of a bitcoin economy.
Again the early adopter(wealthy miners) must bite off more risk than later adopters, yet again the early adopters have exponetially more to gain by taking the risks, that will eventually not be such a leap for the masses.