Who the heck wouldn't get irritated by it? Low fees seem like a blessing since they are virtually dust while high fees seem like some sort of messed up curse. However, LN helps rectify these issues, but it isn't available everywhere sadly.
Another great solution is depending on altcoins like LTC, Doge, XRP etc which have consistently low fees though the conversion rates vary a lot.
It is indeed irritating not sometimes but always to be caught in high fees when making a Bitcoin transactions. Using altcoin is good But then if our holdings is in Bitcoin and is in our custodial wallet and it happens that we have a need for money and our fund is kept in BTC, and luckily the fee is surging, we have to convert them to LTC and other crypto to enjoy a much lower fee in the following transactions until the Bitcoin network congestion subsides. So we suffer to pay for higher fees before we initiate the conversion.
I do agree that if we are irritated by excess Bitcoin fees, we have to look for an alternative and that is getting altcoins for cheaper transaction. It maybe bad since this one needs us to trust our fund to third party exchanges, but using the same centralized platform for transfer also saves us from fee. Internal transfer for most platform are free of charge.