True love is what got all this men in trouble.

I have what you call true love but I don't mix love with money.

The whole reason Bitcoin exists is because we can't trust people.

Some people need to put their hand in fire to realize the danger.

If we could trust other people, cryptocurrencies wouldn't be needed.

What you need if you're worried about not leaving anything to your love ones is a hardware implementation of "Dead Man's Switch":

https://www.deadmansswitch.net/
(DO NOT use it for seed phrases)

If you would lose such device, you would simply transfer funds to another address before it unlocks itself.

Seeing how much concern is around this issue, I think it's a good business plan for someone willing to design such device.

This is the worst possible way, I would rather trust directly my family members than my attorney or bank.

Robert Graham (Nevada Attorney)
Case Summary: Robert Graham, a Las Vegas attorney specializing in estate law, was accused of stealing over $16 million from the trust accounts of his clients.

Tom Girardi (Girardi & Keese)
Case Summary: Tom Girardi, a prominent Los Angeles attorney and the husband of reality TV star Erika Jayne, was accused of embezzling millions of dollars in settlement money from clients.

Marc Dreier (New York Attorney)
Case Summary: Marc Dreier, a Manhattan attorney, ran a massive Ponzi scheme that defrauded investors out of more than $700 million.

Timothy Dennin (New York Attorney)
Case Summary: Timothy Dennin, a New York attorney, was accused of stealing over $500,000 from his clients' escrow accounts.

Scott Rothstein (Florida Attorney)
Case Summary: Scott Rothstein, a Florida attorney, ran a $1.2 billion Ponzi scheme through his law firm

Ronald Slayton (California Attorney)
Case Summary: Ronald Slayton, a California attorney, was convicted of stealing over $4 million from his clients by pocketing settlement funds meant for his clients and their medical providers.

I can do this all day - the list is long.  
Do you also want a list of inside jobs where bank vaults were robbed by the employees ?  

Remember - if you really are worried about not leaving anything, you don't have to give access to 100% of the funds, give your family access to 25% or 50%.

This is what you will hear from your attorney when he robs you out of everything  

He/bank will also reveal everything to authorities if they get such request, you're on a plate ready to be served.

My trust in people is ZERO because I have too much to lose, maybe if I had only couple hundred K's I wouldn't be so paranoid.

I think access to your crypto wallet should not be shared with anyone and if you want to have a backup plan for your family you should just diversify into other assets that can be easily transferred after your death like real-estate etc because they can't be as easily stolen as crypto.

From @OP story, it is clear that we must have a plan for our crypto so they can access it when we are pass away. We can teach them how to use Bitcoin so they can continue what we did and can do something with our crypto while they can search for more information. We don't know what will happen in the future but if we can prepares that with our plan, we will see our family can do the best thing with our legacy. I am still teach my wife about crypto so she can continue what I've done without a problem if this is my last day. Although I am still worry if she have a problem someday, I am sure she will be fine

We hope your dad will recover soon and we pray for your father. You can besides your father and telling him to keep his spirit and not just give up with the situation. Someone can recovery from stroke but that will need a big effort because many people are give up when they are in the hard situation.

Firstly, I sympathize with you and your father. But you should also understand and be prepared for the fact that a stroke always leaves a mark, and you should understand that things will not be as they were before.
But the fact that many here now agree with the statement that we should trust our assets to our loved ones does not fit in with other posts on other topics where people refuse to trust someone. I always remember that we are not eternal, and we must have people nearby whom we can trust to manage our funds in the event of unexpected situations that happen to us, and also so as not to leave in danger those for whose lives we are responsible.

Very sorry about your dad's health. I hope he gets better sooner. About your advice, it is something I agree to and totally recommend for everyone. Nothing indeed is promised except this moment we have which is called the present. It takes a visionary person to do this and it entails a lot of sacrifices and delayed gratification in the eventuality of the unknown. Even if one is not into crypto, whatever you do have a savings and investment funds that your kids can have or maybe your wife. And if the family is doing well financially, at least something for the less privileged in the society.

That's a big dilemma, really.
I trust my family and some close friends, but they too are not into crypto that much.
They can always be taught about it, though.

Wishing for a complete recovery for you dad. I agree that we should have contingency plans of how we're going to distribute our holdings whenever some unforeseen things happen to us. For me, it's actually a good thing that we're planning on how to pass on the inheritance that our kids might have and they'll be able to use it for their future as well so that they won't have a miserable life.

It's not that easy to teach Bitcoin to our loved ones when we're on a situation that we can't barely move or we are going through between life and death situation. We can make notes and instructions on how they can retrieve our Bitcoins through our seed phrases or whatever is comfortable to you. I have done that already and told my family on what they should do if I'm gone on an instant or I didn't wake up anymore one morning.