I always think that there's no shame in secretly saving some money without telling anyone about it, even your spouse, because somewhere in life you might need something that can help you stay afloat and not becoming completely broke because this is real life and things happen, and they happen at times you might least expect them to. Such stories make my beliefs stronger, and I feel no shame in saying that I actually do the same and I feel I'm doing the right thing.
You are not always supposed to disclose everything with your family, especially when it comes to finances and how much money you make and how you make it. Always keep some things to yourself and be the only one who knows you have that thing. As long as you are taking good care of your family, they won't care about anything else, but whatever you can do to earn something extra and save it for the future can go a long way.
So, folks, it's right, despite being a family man, you gotta think about these things too, because the way you care about others and their futures and whatnot, no one is doing that for you now when you are a grown up.
There is nothing wrong or shameful about secretly saving money without telling anyone, including our wives or parents. But on the contrary, we should also respect and accept if our wife or relatives do the same thing.
One thing I see is that many people do not like to reveal their assets or share their secrets with their relatives but they always want their relatives to always reveal everything to them and not hide anything. Is that fair? That just shows their selfishness, greed and living only for themselves and not for everyone as they claim.
If we are distrustful and always suspicious of others, we should not be sad or disappointed if others do the same to us. If we want to receive good things, we must first give good things, we cannot be greedy when we only want to receive good things while the things we give are only bad things.
I understand your perspective, but from a man's point of view, I believe you are mistaken. Men are often defined by their ability to provide; if a man cannot provide, he may be perceived as less of a man. In contrast, if a woman is unable to provide, she is still seen as a woman, and society often feels pity for her.
If a woman asks for help from ten different people, I am confident that seven of them will offer assistance. However, a man who cannot solve his own problems faces judgment simply for being a man. This societal pressure has led to many men suffering in silence, unable to share their struggles for fear of how they will be perceived. Unfortunately, some would rather keep their pain to themselves than risk being judged by others.
As a man, you don't have to share every detail about your finances with your wife. This doesnt mean you are being unfaithful, as you might have suggested. Traditionally, a woman's role is to support her husband; God created Eve as a helper for Adam, not the other way around. Men are meant to lead, and women are meant to follow.
The story of Eve giving Adam the forbidden fruit serves as an example of why men may choose not to disclose their entire income to their wives. Simply be responsible and fulfill your duties as a partner. Staying faithful in your marriage is what truly matters, it has nothing to do with your worth or the money you have in the bank.
