If everyone is scared of hardware wallet as their safety option and self custody option who wins? Who benefits the most from this? I guess the centralised entities and the banks.
Well, I wouldn't say this scares everyone, since people continue to use hardware wallets (except for Coldcard owners).
The winners here are hackers and other malicious actors who can run malware on your PCs \ laptops to steal your cryptocurrency.
Do you think this panic in the hardware wallet market was orchestrated by centralized organizations and banks? One might suspect cryptocurrency exchanges or custodial services, but banks? Cryptocurrency holders aren't the bank's target audience; they would never hand over their assets to them, as they are typically people who have become disillusioned with the traditional financial system and recognized the profit potential offered by cryptocurrency.
What if this is it? What if the goals of these people is to strike fear in the mind of holders that giving up their Bitcoin to custodial entities is the only way forward?
And is that why hacker attacks are orchestrated against the providers of these services? After all, centralized services get hacked just the same, take the recent incident with Revolut, for example. How does news like that improve the perception of the service as a secure place to store assets? Even if user funds weren't actually stolen in that specific case, the personal data leak still put users at risk.
Custodial services don't guarantee 100% security for asset storage either, as they can be hacked (just google how many exchanges have been compromised over the years) and can go bankrupt or collapse (like FTX,Terra\ Luna).
I know what many people will say, that I am just scared because one hardware wallet got ruined, ColdCard as the main example, but before you said this few people surrounding myself have already started to show this sign.
People in one's personal circle represent a very small sample for drawing conclusions.
It's what made me think this way, my friends are already complaining that hardware wallets aren't safe anymore, one fell and others are already looking like spoilt eggs.
Well, if you were dropped, youd break just the same.

Thats not a valid argument. Any electronic device can fail if dropped (or subjected to physical damage). That doesn't mean this device itself is unreliable. The primary function of hardware wallets is the secure storage of assets.
By any chance, do your friends own Ledger?

If so, theres no point in continuing the discussion about their quality.

Besides, youve shifted the conversation from the reliability of HW devices as asset storage to the realm of physical durability and impact resistance. Those are two completely different topics.
Is there any evil agenda behind this or it's just normal human reaction?
To see malicious intent in this is to admit to paranoia.

The world is a very complex place where a multitude of unrelated events occur, events that may share common consequences, yet this doesn't mean some "universal evil" is orchestrating these processes solely to force you to hand over your assets to their management.