For those who don't know the QT client (and many other clients copy these same rules) enforces the following fees as a denial of service prevention mechanism:
1) For high priority txs - no fee required *
2) To relay low priority txs - 0.0001 BTC per KB (1 mBTC per KB)
3) To include tx in a block - 0.0005 BTC per KB (5 mBTC per KB)
4) To create a low priority tx - 0.0005 BTC per KB (5 mBTC per KB)
More specifically:
https://en.bitcoin.it/wiki/Transaction_feesAnd the key parts of that:
A transaction will be sent without fees if these conditions are met:
* It is smaller than 10 thousand bytes.
* All outputs are 0.01 BTC or larger.
* Its priority is large enough (see the Technical Info section below)
However.. the more interesting problem is that over the last few weeks there have been as many as 12,000 backlogged transactions waiting for confirmations. When there are too many transactions, miners select the highest fee-per-kb tx's first. What's happening is that there's a number of clients and wallet implementations that pay WAY higher fees than the standard amount, and since higher fees win, they get in and the standard fee transactions don't.
Even if you could get the relay fees lowered overnight, when the backlogs hit, your low fees won't get a chance compared to the people paying 0.0005 or 0.001 or 0.01. You'll be waiting for confirmations for hours.. perhaps days...
If you lower them prematurely on your client, you'll be victim to things like this:
2013-04-06 12:24:12 ERROR: CTxMemPool::accept() : not enough fees b5a7f7766dbc36dc596a7890d791361d9e40687bffd8e66d0907b1f25376e4f0, 100000 < 330000
2013-04-06 12:24:12 ERROR: CTxMemPool::accept() : not enough fees 3c8132fd3d67d5db27e63af33de69232153ef62810b3c588c26e3090652edab2, 0 < 10000
2013-04-06 12:24:13 ERROR: CTxMemPool::accept() : not enough fees e3074aff5855eba1e4eff937d95436a5bb852f416cd4785d3d4f6ed5aca2798c, 0 < 450000
That's stock fee settings on my bitcoind. It's dropping those transactions and refusing to relay them to the other 171 peers it is connected to.