that makes no sense, bittrex eth/dgd has 0 volume

i understand that the solution found is SF followed by HF without any rollback or transaction cancelled, allowing to reimburse everyone as described in this post :

https://blog.slock.it/what-the-fork-really-means-6fe573ac31dd#.9mqoi72q1

with only minor modifications of the clients,

but i am open to further explanations...

In order to do a hard fork without a network split, we need to upgrade every single node in the network. If only 51% of nodes upgrade, the network splits and there is no longer an "Ethereum", but two separate networks which cannot interact, each claiming to be the true "Ethereum".

bardon for my naive question but who is "we"?
the ether holders ? with a wallet ? the miners? the exchanges ?
and how high is the chance that "we" all agree?

I think you've got a very high chance some haters and btc maximalists going to throw some decent hash on the "no" vote. "yes" could find out they are really on the weaker chain.
I don't think HF will go down without frictions. Leaving shorts open and popcorn at hand is my recommendation.

the correct way to look at it now:
https://medium.com/@WhalePanda/another-quick-dao-eth-update-2ac0e58ef1f0#.6iysrqtb1

The best you retards can do is just let it be and do nothing, like Charly Lee recommended to you progressive actionists.

Did you realize that faith is lost when funds are recoverd and faith is lost when funds aren't recovered?

Bottom line: faith is lost

you're behind the curve here. Also "bringing the hacker to justice" could result in a court ruling to having to pay him out. Did you know? It's no certainty the hacker would be punished or rewarded in such a case.
Personally i don't think he will be punished. Wether he would be rewarded or not would have to be seen. Would certainly be an interesting thing to watch.

YOUR main problem seems to be that you entered into a contract (dao) without reading or understanding it. Don't make others responsible for that!

First you have to blame yourself and second the shills that misled you into 'investing' into a thing which you don't understand and that was fundamentally broken.
Also experts raised red flags about the dao before the hack. They were ignored. Now don't try to shift the blame 100% away from yourself.
Blame the people that told you to invest and that 'it was a sure thing without risk' for your loss instead of the hacker who showed them to be crooked liars.

you are mislead if you belive it can be stoped fast or with time
dont you see to stop it you need to destroy ether
and you would need the agreement of all ether holders to do it
they will never get that in a million years
the dao is done
the dao ether are gone
let go

You just need 51% of the miners to agree with certain proposal so that the proposal will be implemented. Not the Ethereum owner.

There are two possible hard forks:

a) Blocking the attacker and no transaction rollback, the funds will be retrieved by the same strategy envisioned with the soft fork.

b) Outright transaction rollback, and automatic refund.