no progress... nmap says need to specify a host...i tried both desktop ip's, but that doesnt seem to give me anything.
there was a 0.0.0.0 ip address in wireshark...? I tried everry ip address I found...the miner is running, the ethernet lights are pinging away..... huh... I'm ready to get an ulcer

Do you have a device on your network that is a DHCP server?
most any router will do this
You need one or the miner will not get an address to find.
A PC can become a DHCP server.
Once you have a DHCP server you can ask _IT_ for the addresses it has assigned.